Q. My wife and I have been married for seven months and she is having a real problem with the transition. This was complicated by the fact that yesterday, two hours after the kid exchange, my wife and I are in bed and my ex is pounding on the front door because my kid left something behind. My wife is furious and will barely talk to me. There has to be a better way. What’s good ex-etiquette?
A. I’m sorry, but I’m with your wife. Your ex’s behavior sounds way over the top. Rule nine of the 10 Rules of Good Ex-etiquette for Parents is, “Respect each other’s turf.” You would never drop by a friend’s house unannounced and bang on the door if one of the kids left something behind. Why would you treat the mother or father of your children with any less respect than a friend? It’s good manners to call someone before you visit. The same behavior should be extended to your ex if you expect courteous behavior in return.