Q. I live a very comfortable life, married to an absolutely great guy and all the ex's - his and mine - get along just fine. The problem is every time my husband's ex's new husband is not around, she starts with the "remember the good old days" stories. She doesn't do it if her husband is present. This Christmas her husband had to run to the store for something and as soon as he left, she cornered my husband and started talking about their past Christmases together. The kids were there and heard it all. It made me very uncomfortable and I didn't know how to handle it. What's good ex-etiquette?
A. You shouldn't have to handle it. Your husband should. The good ex-etiquette rule of thumb is whomever is related to the offending party is the one to address the offense. That means if it was your brother who was offending, it would be your responsibility. If it was his mother, it would be his responsibility. This is the mother of his children, therefore it's up to him to set the boundaries with his ex-and they should be clear and concise.